We all text these days – in fact for many of us it’s out main form of communication. Whether it’s Whatsapp, Facebook Messenger, dating apps or any number of other random apps. Texting is probably the go to communication method for the majority of smartphone users.
But being a “dry texter” is a common issue many people face. This is where conversations become dull and uninteresting. Don’t worry, though! In this article, we’ll explore what dry texting is and provide actionable tips to help you be fun and engaging over text.
Whether you’re looking to spark up a conversation or flirt with someone you’re interested in, these tips will help you leave a lasting impression. So grab your phone (if you’re not already reading this on your portable device) and let’s dive in!
What is Dry Texting?
Before we delve into how to avoid being a dry texter, let’s first understand what it means. Dry texting refers to conversations that lack excitement, energy, and depth.
It often involves one-word replies, monotonous responses, and a general lack of effort in sustaining a meaningful conversation.
Being a dry texter can lead to miscommunications, boredom, and potential disinterest from the other person. In short, it singles you out as a bit, well, y’know… Dry.
So if you want to leave a positive impression via your messages, lets check out how to NOT be a dry texting bore.
How to Be Fun Over Text
Many of us text without even thinking about it. And while you might be chatting to buddies who ‘get you’ one minute, the next minute you could be chatting to someone you’ve never met but would like to make a good impression with.
These tips are designed for use with dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble or eHarmony. But they can also be used to amp up the excitement and engagement on standard messaging apps too.
Ok so how can you be a fun texter?
1. Use Emojis and GIFs to Express Yourself
Emojis and GIFs add a layer of personality to your texts. They can convey emotions, humor, and playfulness that plain text can sometimes lack. So go ahead and sprinkle some emojis and witty GIFs throughout your conversations. However, use them sparingly and appropriately to maintain a balance and not overdo it.
2. Show Genuine Interest in the Other Person
Engaging in meaningful conversations involves actively listening and showing a genuine interest in the other person. Ask open-ended questions that encourage longer and more meaningful responses. This will help create a foundation for a lively conversation and make the other person feel valued and heard.
3. Avoid Asking Boring Questions
To keep the conversation exciting, avoid asking generic and predictable questions. Instead, try to be more creative and thought-provoking. For example, instead of asking “What’s your favorite color?”, you could ask “If you could be any superhero, who would you be and why?” This will lead to more interesting and engaging discussions.
4. Ask Leading Questions
Leading questions are a great way to spark conversations and encourage the other person to share more about themselves. These questions are designed to prompt a specific response that can lead to a deeper discussion. For example, instead of asking “Do you like dogs?”, you could ask “If you were a dog, which breed would you be?” This could give the other person an opportunity to share a joke, story or a personal experience.
5. Use Humor and Jokes
Laughter is always a great way to bond with someone. Inject humor into your texts by sharing funny anecdotes, jokes, or humorous observations. This will lighten the mood and create a more enjoyable texting experience. Be careful though and consider the other person’s sense of humor by avoid offensive or controversial jokes (at least to start with).
6. Be Upbeat – Avoid Negativity (Even If the Other Person Is Negative)
Maintain a positive and upbeat attitude in your texts, even if the other person seems negative or down. Positive energy is contagious and can uplift the mood of the conversation. Offer support, encouragement, and try to shift the focus towards more positive topics. However, it’s important to acknowledge and validate the other person’s feelings before redirecting the conversation.
7. Share Interesting News or Facts
One way to maintain an engaged conversation is by sharing interesting news or facts related to things you both have in common. For example, share a new scientific discovery about your favorite animal, a neat travel destination you heard about from a mutual friend, or a cool art exhibit you recently visited. This can lead to a thought-provoking conversation and widen each other’s horizons.
8. Use Personal Anecdotes
Sharing personal anecdotes can make conversations feel more intimate and help you get to know each other better. Tell a funny story from your childhood, an embarrassing moment, or a recent adventure. This will make you seem more relatable and give the other person a window into your personality.
9. Keep the Conversation Flowing
Don’t let the conversation become stagnant. Keep the conversation flowing by asking follow-up questions, sharing your thoughts, and providing thoughtful responses. This will show the other person you’re engaged and invested in the conversation. Avoid responding with one-word answers, as this can shut down the conversation.
Find out more about how to make conversation with anyone.
How to Flirt Over Text
You might be flirting over Whatsapp, or it might be on Tinder or another dating app. Knowing how to use text flirting and avoid dry texting can really get the sparks flying.
You will need a bit of finesse and a dash of creativity. So here’s our tips on how to flirt like a pro:
1. Use Visualization to Get Them in the Mood
Knowing how to paint a picture and get them in the right frame of mind is a fine art. But you can do it by talking about fun things and situations, making suggestions of sex or sensual experiences, and using positive and sexy language. Note: NOT talking about sex here.
An example would be talking about how when you went to a music festival, how the experience made you feel free and unrestrained and how you felt like you would be up for trying new fun things. And then asking when they last felt that free, or how often they like to try new things.
Visualization works. Trust me.
2. Ask Steamy Questions (If You Can Handle the Answer)
If you’re comfortable with it and have established a certain level of rapport, ask steamy questions to add a flirtatious and seductive element to your conversation.
Steer the discussion towards more sensual topics, but always ensure that both parties are comfortable and consenting.
Knowing how to ask flirty and sexy questions is a fine art in itself.
3. Build Sexual Tension Using Suggestion
Incorporate subtle and suggestive language into your texts to ignite the flames of desire. Use innuendos, playful teasing, and double entendres to create a tantalizing atmosphere. This will keep the conversation exciting and flirtatious.
Instead of saying: ‘I’d love to go for a meal with you’, say something like ‘I’d be excited to get together with you and have a great night out’. Excited? Get together? Great night?
4. Be Respectful and Mindful
While flirting can be fun and exciting, it’s essential to remain respectful and mindful of boundaries. Make sure gauge the other person’s comfort level and be ready to adjust your approach accordingly.
While it can be interesting to see what you can get away with, you’ll quickly get the idea if shes really not feeling your style. Tone it back and bring it to her level if you think you’re losing her.
TL;DR: Dry Texting Kills Flirting
Being a dry texter with people you know is fine. But if you’re trying to make a good impression or build a rapport on dating apps, or over messaging apps, try and up your SMS game.
Be fun. Give them something to work with. Save dry texting for your buddies or your family…
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