It’s not a common occurrence that a woman initiates conversation on dating applications. But when they do, it can be very confusing for a guy to know what to say in response. Especially if they’ve just come with a generic ‘Hi’.
Yeah it doesn’t give you much to work with. But it also opens up a world of questions… Is she just being lazy? Or is she shy? Or… Worse still, perhaps she is a bot, scammer or spammer! (yeah thats also a possible).
(Oh hey, you’ve optimized your dating app profile right?)
So this article is all about what and how you can use the details on their dating profile to give an interesting response to a ‘Hi’ or a ‘Hey’ from a girl. Whether that’s on Tinder or Bumble…
What can you do to quickly and simply work out if she’s really interested?
1. Send a ‘Hey’ back as a quick response
When you get a hey as an initiating text, there’s not a lot you can do with it if you want to give a quick response. So do not feel the pressure and send a ‘hey’ back and put the ball back in her court.
On the plus side you are giving a quick response which shows that you are interested in taking the conversation forward.
Maybe use an emoji after the text or use her name to seem more friendly.
2. Ask about her day
Asking ‘How’s it going?’ or ‘How was your day?’ is safe and shows that you are taking an interest in her life and are willing to talk about it and it is also a very good conversation starter.
It gives you an opportunity to use another follow up question after she has replied to the first one with a ‘What was the highlight of your day?’.
3. Start a conversation about her interests
Nowadays different apps have different ways to create a more interesting profile. Use that to your advantage and show that you took time to take a look at her profile.
Talk and ask about more of her interests. This is a very good starter and will lead to a good and interesting conversation.
4. Ask for an opinion
By asking for an opinion on a topic which you may find on her profile or maybe in her photos you will quickly learn about what she likes and what she does not.
The questions can range from favorite food to favorite travel destinations or her favorite place to eat.
The key is to find and infuse humor in these conversations.
5. Show off your personality
Sometimes it is best to ask a question or give a response in a way that best shows your personality. Be it a humorous question or a cheesy pick-up line by aligning it with her bio, or calling her out in a friendly manner like ‘I should let you know that hey is not a good ice-breaker at all’.
Keep in mind that you let her know that it is all just fun and games.
6. Give her a compliment
Since you have access to her profile including her photos, you can simply respond by complimenting her on her looks or hair etc.
There are some questions that new dating applications have which help you to know your partner better: you can use information from those questions and compliment her sense of humour or the different interesting answers she has given to those questions.
When you compliment her on her looks, make sure that it does not come out creepily or awkward.
Level up your flattery: Read our guide to complimenting women.
7. Using emojis or GIFs
When you find it difficult to respond to a ‘hi’, you might want to go for emojis or gifs after a text message. Text messages are very bad at conveying emotional tone and emojis and gifs serve that very purpose. If you make a sarcastic remark over her text, a wink or a smile emoji will definitely help you and she will receive the message that the remark is an obvious joke.
8. Do not respond
Sometimes, one-word responses signal a lack of effort and interest. Look through her profile and decide if she would be compatible with you. If you think it is a good match, go ahead and use one of the options above to create a response and if not, just do not respond and leave it at that.
Also, is she way hotter than the girls you’re used to dating? Be honest here. If the profile looks like it’s a model or something, perhaps with not many profile pictures, chances are high that its a fake account. Probably best to ignore and save the hassle.
You can try and wait for one or two days and see if she sends another message, if not, move on and look for a new match.
9. Ask follow-up questions
The dating field is full of options ever since it has taken a digital form. You can use any of the options we have provided or find one for yourself. Take the lead of the conversation and ask follow-up questions to keep It going.
Find out if both of you are compatible or not and if you are, ask her out on a date. If you play it right, each of these methods is a sure shot way to a date with your match.
It’s up to you, but the best way to handle the situation is either to respond in kind and see how she takes it, or ask some leading questions.
There are many reasons why a girl might lead with ‘Hi’ on Tinder or Bumble, so just ride it out with our handy dating tips.